Choose Your Battles Wisely - Fight for What Matters | Mindsetchronicle

Divorce can seem like the end of the world - whether you wanted it or not.

The emotional turmoil, the sudden life change and the sense of loss can feel akin to grieving. People tell you you'll get over it but it just doesn't feel like you ever will.

Then, to add to the emotional burden of divorce come the practicalities. At a time when it's difficult to think clearly you have to sort out financial and legal issues while remaining as calm and responsible as possible.

The emotional fallout of divorce

Emotions common during divorce are anger, guilt and anxiety about coping in the future - emotionally or financially. There may also be bittersweet memories of how things used to be before everything 'went wrong'.

If children are involved then there is often guilt and anxiety. How will it affect them?

Does the turmoil of life make you yearn for some inner peace?

Are you too often overwhelmed by the challenges (and even the minor irritations) of daily life?

The pace of our lives can be exciting and stimulating. Rising to challenge gives us a sense of achievement, and satisfaction. Lives without stimulation and challenge can be deadening and joyless.

But you really can have too much of a good thing, and there is no question that our modern lifestyles have become so hectic and pressured that we often get overwhelmed, and conflicted, and distressed.

What can you do?

Does the turmoil of life make you yearn for some inner peace?

Are you too often overwhelmed by the challenges (and even the minor irritations) of daily life?

The pace of our lives can be exciting and stimulating. Rising to challenge gives us a sense of achievement, and satisfaction. Lives without stimulation and challenge can be deadening and joyless.

But you really can have too much of a good thing, and there is no question that our modern lifestyles have become so hectic and pressured that we often get overwhelmed, and conflicted, and distressed.

What can you do?

Are you and your spouse or partner in a codependent relationship that's actually harming you? Both of you?

Are you looking for a way to change this and find a healthier way to be together?

Relationships are complex things, and no two are alike. All couples gradually work out a way of being together that works for them.

All relationships involve compromises, and sacrifices. It can take a lot of negotiation, understanding, tolerance - and yes, forgiveness - to build a sustainable, rewarding partnership. There is no one right way.

The effects of low self esteem are all around us.

Broken or dsyfunctional relationships, academic underachievement, feelings of loneliness and isolation, and behavior that damages health and life prospects all have roots in low self esteem.

Why high self esteem isn't the answer

It might seem that high self esteem would be a great thing, but high self esteem can bring its own problems.

A little bit of doubt or caution before you go feet first into something forces you to consider more carefully how your actions might affect, for good or bad, the outcome.

So, how much self esteem is right for you?

Are you struggling to cope with the loss of someone important to you?

Do you wish you could find a healthy way to grieve?

Grief is a natural process we all experience when we lose someone important to us. But this doesn't make it any easier to deal with.

When you lose someone, it can be very hard for a while.

You may find that everything reminds you of them and, more painfully, that they are no longer around.

It can sometimes feel as though you'll never be able to deal with your grief and move on with your life.